The simple act of asking can be a powerful way to prevent the suicide of someone in distress. Yet many – probably most – of us do not recognize that level of distress, nor feel able to start the conversation if we do. We may be afraid of making a situation worse, or even giving someone the idea. It is now well-established that beginning a conversation – openly, honestly and without judgment – is in fact a very helpful thing to do. In fact, it is usually met with relief by someone who is thinking of suicide. By starting the conversation, we tell someone that we care enough to notice their despair and that we care enough to acknowledge their pain. By talking with someone, we do not obligate ourselves to solving their problems, nor do we take responsibility for their life. We do offer connection in the moment and, hopefully, a bridge to ongoing support. If someone is in imminent danger, call 911. For crisis consultation, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK